The Real Man's Handbook: 12 Commitments of a Real Man

Introduction

In today’s world, many of us feel that the essence of manhood is fading. It’s not just about physical strength; it’s about character, values, and our impact on those around us. Author shares alarming statistics, that around 75% of people who commit suicide in the USA are men. It’s clear that we face unique challenges in our society, making it tougher than ever to embody what it means to be a real man. But together, we can make a difference, let's explore 12 commitments we can adopt.

Commitment 1: Core Values

• Commit to live by core values like honesty, integrity, kindness, and respect. Our values shape our decisions, and when we prioritise them, everything else falls into place. We can show who we are through our actions, whether on social media or in our daily interactions.

Commitment 2: Respecting Others

• We must focus on our actions and attitudes toward others. Respect begins with self-respect; if we neglect our health or disregard the needs of others, we lose sight of what it means to be honourable. Every small act of respect matters, whether it’s yielding a seat to an elder or treating everyone we meet with kindness.

Commitment 3: Mastering Our Money

• As a man we must take charge of our finances and cultivate gratitude for what we have. We can choose to either spend less or earn more.

Commitment 4: Excellence in Work

• We are paid for our results and accomplishments. Our passion or love has no value to the market, it's skills and results that matter not our feelings. Embrace roles fully, adding value to our work while honing our skills.

Commitment 5: Serving Others

• Being a giver rather than a taker is fundamental especially to our partners and family. Real men serves and support their family and listen actively. Work together to foster a partnership where we help our family and partners emotionally and spiritually.

Commitment 6: Being Leaders

• If we don’t take the lead, others will. Our integrity and character inspire those around us. We can strengthen our leadership by enhancing our communication skills and being role models for others.

Commitment 7: Commitment to Our Wives

• Family forms the foundation of society, and as men, it's essential to show genuine affection to our wives in meaningful ways. True commitment means prioritising loyalty over fleeting desires, especially when statistics reveal that more than 40% of people, or 1 in 3, cheat on their spouses. By nurturing our relationships, we ensure the strength and stability of our families.

Commitment 8: Being Good Fathers

• As fathers, we must actively engage with our children, teaching them essential communication skills and discipline. Our family dynamics should be rooted in love and respect. A family is not a democracy; it's a monarchy where we lead with wisdom and responsibility. While it's important to discipline our children, we must be careful not to go too far when they make mistakes, ensuring we never punish them in anger. Words spoken in anger can never be taken back, so it's vital to watch what we say and lead with patience and care. By doing so, we create a nurturing environment that fosters growth and strong values.

Commitment 9: Personal Growth

• We can embrace lifelong learning through reading and experiences. Personal growth is essential for becoming the best versions of ourselves.

Commitment 10: Friendships

• Building and maintaining friendships enriches our lives. We should surround ourselves with positive influences and encourage those who uplift us while distancing from negativity.

Commitment 11: Taking Care of Ourselves

• Taking care of ourselves is essential for our overall well-being. We should prioritise self-care by exploring spirituality and committing to self-education. While formal education provides the means to earn a living, self-education can pave the way to greater fortune. Our health and financial stability significantly impact our relationships and overall happiness, as statistics show that financial problems are among the leading causes of divorce. By investing in ourselves, we not only enhance our lives but also strengthen our relationships with those we love.

Commitment 12: Commitment to Our Commitments

• Finally, let’s uphold our commitments to family and work. Keeping our word and adhering to our core values strengthens our character and builds trust.

Conclusion:

• For men seeking guidance and direction, this book serves as a transformative guide. It promotes deep introspection while offering practical steps to foster growth in all areas of life. By living according to these principles, we can cultivate stronger relationships and lead a more fulfilling and meaningful life.